Cause Essay

There are people that come and go in my life, that I have thought, 'wow I thought I meant more to them.' I had known my best friend since 4^th grade, there was only one year that I can remember us not being friends, and that was fifth grade. Puberty and girls being girls got the best of us, we would write the horrible things on notebooks and share them with other friends; “You don’t want to be friends with her, she smells.” “Did you see her clothes today.” And the worst one you could say to someone, “If your friends with her, then you aren’t friends with me.” But girls always make up in the end, you could snap your fingers together and BAM, they are friends, like nothing ever happened. Lorraine and I became more than just friends after we made up that year, we were sisters. I am now growing into a young woman, taking charge of my life, without my parents’ advice always guiding me. This is the time where I need my friends, whom are more like my sisters to help guide me through the hard ships that come with growing up. But I have learned that even the strongest bonds between sisters just can’t stand some trials that life throws at us. Lorraine and I talk now every month or two, it now depends on when something good happens in our lives, or when she needs something from me, but now I have gone through so much, and have grown with the new friends in my life. There are reasons why I love the friends I have in my life, three specific reasons that go with each of my three best friends. Trust, Caring, Compassion.

Family ties and bonds are hard to come by, and when they are friends that are more like family, the trust is all you want to be there. So when you’re best friend asks you to go get a tattoo with her secretly against her mother’s wishes, you don’t think twice! The answer is “Yes.” She is trusting in you that for the next two years you won’t tell a soul, and you will get the tattoo somewhere that is covered; so, her mother doesn’t curse you out either for getting one. This is the memory that always floods my mind when I think of the person I trust most in my life, Amanda. Her parents so strict, that she would only tell my mother that she wanted a tattoo, and that on Easter day her and I were going to get one each. When her parents find out that she is still seeing the guy they don’t want her around, instead of the well rounded college football player that she dated in high school, Amanda runs to my house with the wind blowing behind, because she knows that if her mother calls, I won’t say she is sitting right beside me, even though her mother already knows she is. That is the trust she and I have with each other, it is a bond between sisters. There are ups and downs, bottles dumped on my head, and curse words at her from me, family members thinking that after pageants we would never be friends. But that is what a bond of trust is, we know each other in and out, the secrets are held inside us, carefully tucked away in our minds.

When the word caring pops into my mind, Katelin is the definition.Out of anyone I know she cares more about family and friends, before herself. Her heart is ten times bigger than anyone in this world. When ever I have gotten on facebook, and have seen all the statuses that friends post about their day, or what is troubling them, this is what Katelin posts, “Emma vayo, you are your mommies everything already I can't even imagine the moment you are in my arms, I promise to make you proud to have me as your mother, I promise to love you unconditionally and to give you everything you need and never let you go without, you are mommies whole world I can't wait to finally meet your precious face in 8 weeks or less♥ I love you emma, thank you god for blessing me with such a beautiful gift, and family ♥♥.” She cares about that little girl inside of her more than any person she could have met in her life, she is dealing with a bacterial infection in her lungs, and she won’t take all the medications because she is so worried about that little bun in oven. I love Katelin, she is a part of my little close knit family, and I know that when I need her and something bad has happened she is always there because she cares about whom ever is in her life.

Putting others before you, caring about everyone else before you care about yourself, the trust and caring you have for a person all together turns you into a compassionate person. You live for someone else besides yourself, Leeann does just that. She was the person that lifted weight off my shoulders, when life was too much to handle. Leeann would be there despite anything in her way. Family and friends before yourself that is what life comes down to. Leeann was very passionate about her job, like she was about the daughter she had on the way almost a year ago, when Audiranna came into her life she flourished in her new role as a mother but even more as a person.  She came to visit me at work today, and her just standing in front of me was enough to lighten my day, after a start that was less than spectacular to begin with, But just her being there and the feeling that she gave was enough to make my day feel a little less stressful, She is the person I can always turn to when I need to talk and need a friend who cares. She is the friend where all three reasons are built into one person, she is a true friend, whom I could trust with my most deepest secrets, the friend who cares more about everyone else, before putting herself first, and the friend that could show compassion for her best friend, and still show that same compassion for her worst enemy.

"Make New Friends but Keep the old." Katelin, Leeann, and Amanda, they are my rock. These three girls are not only a part of life; they are a part of me. I take a piece of them with me, as they do of me. I always know I can go to them, talk to them, vent to them. There to listen, to comfort, to yell when need. They are trust I look for in a Sister, the caring I want in and have in my family, the compassion that comes with years of friendship, years of heart break, accidents, they are the sisters that get me through life no matter how difficult it gets as we grow and start our lives out of our families, and creating our new families.